I’m not sure why some people are more generous than others, but there are definitely people who exude giving and helping, and others who do not.
In the workplace, you’ll often find that people are giving, in order “to get”. They hope that some day you’ll return the favor, maybe in terms of a recommendation, a raise, or even a lead on a new job. It’s different if it’s a relative or friend, though. Sometimes it takes some coaxing.
Occasionally, people who didn’t have much when they were younger, or had to struggle to keep what they did have, are less likely to part with what they do own, or are not inclined to give away much when they are older. Sometimes, it is just the opposite, but generally, if you had a sibling always taking your possessions, or you always had “hand me downs”, you aren’t willing to share much!
Some people are willing to give you whatever they have no questions asked. You need a wrench, a car, or an errand run, no problem. Just like the song by Tracy Lawrence, “Find Out Who Your Friends Are”, some will drop everything, and never think, ‘what’s in it for me?’, or ‘it’s way too far’. And it is when you are in need a of place to stay, or money, you’ll find out fast, who you can count on.
Maybe some people are afraid if they give, you’ll want more again and again. Others might be less generous because they are not sure what your motivation is for wanting–like ‘why would they want anything of mine?’. I guess it’s like the generalization, some people are “givers”, some are just “takers”!
I do like to patronize businesses that are nice, though too. If their staff is friendly, they are willing to help, or give some personalized service, I will return, and recommend their shop to all my friends. It’s just about going the extra mile, that will pay big dividends in the end. Some companies, just want your business, and don’t really value you. Small businesses can capitalize on their size by getting to know their customers, know folks on a first-name basis, and be generous by giving that extra shot of espresso for free, not charge for refills, or even comp a drink now and again. Trust me, that pays huge compliments in return. One dry cleaning store owner treated me rudely, and even after several years of patronage, I’ve never set foot in their business again. Not only that, I’ve told everyone I know that lives in my town about the unprofessional service I received. And, what did I hear…their stories of how they’d received poor treatment too. Don’t spend your hard-earned dough on places that are not willing to keep your business.
So let’s all strive to be the best person we are meant to be. Treat others well, be generous, and above all, play nice.
The Smart Alaskan 